Many people desire variety in bed. On one particular night, you might ask your partner for a gentle spanking, only to find yourself feeling that you’re beloved was too rough. To ensure a seamless experience from the outset, it's essential to comprehend why intense sexual activity holds its own allure. This means looking at how people before us experienced such things, before you start exploring on your own.
Masochism, sadism... Many of us have a negative attitude towards these words; moreover, they evoke unpleasant associations. A sadist is seen as someone who looks scary and enjoys being mean to babies, and a masochist is thought of as a weak and unimportant person.
However, in reality, masochism is a broader concept than what everyone is used to thinking. Think about how you arrange days for yourself to relax. Has it ever happened that coworkers called you a masochist when they saw you eating only one apple for both lunch and dinner? Parents also shook their heads and called you a sadist. Surely, you have a strict boss, that is if you don't have a freelance profession, and at home, you even scold your daughter for not doing the dishes. Throughout our lives, we play roles of both submissive and dominants, so it's not surprising that "slave-master" type of relationships have entered our bedrooms.
BDSM is a relationship that is a role play that revolves around the element of power (force). People can say what they want, but it's not really sexual play in it's purest form. Many couples claim it's a lifestyle. If you look at BDSM from a sociological perspective, you could say that it's a culture or a subculture. What is the difference between power role-playing and BDSM and dangerous forms of behavior, because both partners freely go for it, and such relationships are based on giving their lover power over themselves? The most important thing is not to force a person to do something they don't want to do or are unsure of. Many people who fantasize about violence are afraid to show their emotions. After all, if you realize that you are different, you can get a mental health disorder, depression, and more. Thanks to research, it turns out that people who love such relationships have experienced both psychological and physical abuse as children. Of course, if you go to a psychologist several times, you can get rid of fantasies that don't give rest. Not long ago it was known that BDSM was considered as a deviation from the norm and recommended to treat it, and medically and in special institutions.
This was because the society was convinced - all sexual variations should be corrected immediately. Moreover, couples practicing BDSM are very good at other deviations, so the community of "slaves and masters" was enriched with other people with unconventional views - transvestites, fetishists and so on. It's very important not to be frightened of the manifestations of one's sexuality, not to be afraid to make experiments. There is such a law, it says - whatever fantasy you have not visited, you are not alone. In any case, there will be at least one more person on earth who wants the same. About 30% of adults, regardless of sexual preference and gender, practice some elements of BDSM. However, fantasies that relate to sexual violence visit almost every person!
WHAT DOES THE DICTIONARY SAY?
And the dictionary says that BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Dominance and Masochism. In general, the most important principles are voluntariness, reasonableness and safety. A Svich is a person who enjoys both submission and domination to the same extent.
EVERYTHING IS THOUGHT OUT
To hard sex did not turn out to be cruelty, it's necessary to share experiences, for example, never and no one will start using a whip on his partner, just because he saw how it's done in a movie or read in a book. The person who is dominant should experience all the painful sensations himself before applying it to the submissive. Moreover, every couple who wants variety and decided to make such an experiment should think over the scenario. What does it mean? This is written on paper actions that will agree to both and moreover, it's necessary to describe the actions themselves and the attributes that you will need. In general, you need to describe everything in detail. If you make a scenario of the two of you, it's sometimes unclear who is the master and who is the slave.Often in such cases, the dominant are toys for power slaves. Already when you will discuss the scenario, get a lot of fun. Remember that it's not necessary to enter into the scenario of all the ideas that visited you!
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Belt. Every house has this attribute, but not every belt is suitable for flogging. Don't use stiff belt and belt with embossed surface - so you can injure yourself or your partner. Pain can bring and flogging with a narrow belt, despite the fact that it seems light.
Handcuffs. The most basic principle of BDSM is restraining and binding freedom. Strict masters use not only handcuffs with fluff and silk handkerchiefs - there are special ropes, special ways of binding, bondage and fixation kits.
Whips. Great for hard flogging, but you need to be careful, the whip splits the skin very easily.
Stack. A stiff and short instrument. Stacks can be with or without a spank on the end.
LOVE AND VIOLENCE
Has your bedroom turned uncomfortably chilly, and has your relationship lost it's former fiery passion? Inject some emotion! You don't need whips and spikes to infuse more variety into your intimate life. BDSM is exactly what you're looking for. Take a silky scarf, blindfold your beloved husband or boyfriend with it, and take control. He'll truly relish this sensation of limited freedom. By depriving one sense, you become the dominant one. Of course, you can cover your eyes with the scarf, but that's a bit cliché. Try moving the scarf to your mouth instead. Not so he pleads for mercy, but so he yearns for your kiss.
If you bind your partner's hands, you can demonstrate your full potential. And if they bind you, even better: relax and savor the experience. Absolute silence is the key to profound lovemaking. Silence your hearing and amplify your sense of touch. In BDSM, sex is about more than just humiliation and punishment; it's also about reward and encouragement. Keep in mind that the most potent aphrodisiac can be found in exquisite red or black latex lingerie.
Psychologists assert that 75% of a person's mental energy is sexual energy. It's a reservoir of potential that should be tapped into. While only a few individuals are naturally inclined towards BDSM tendencies, with women comprising just 2% and men 5%, there's currently a multitude of BDSM enthusiasts. Nowadays, many people love BDSM. It often begins in childhood, when there's a dominant father and a strong mother in the family, or when violence is used against the child. As a result, a person starts searching for a partner who can help them fulfill their fantasies. Another reason for such inclinations is the parents' desire to raise a child in perfectionism. However, children can't always be perfect in everything, leading to the redirection of sexual energy to inappropriate outlets. Dealing with this alone is often impossible; it requires the qualified assistance of a psychologist. Congenital BDSM tendencies occur when a person can only experience sexual satisfaction through pain.
